If you’re dreading the inevitable day your New Year’s resolutions—to lose weight, get a better job, and drink less, perhaps?—fall flat, it might be because you need different resolutions. Instead of focusing on outcomes, why not set your sights on process in 2014? Here, 10 resolutions you can’t fail at, inspired by TED Talks published this year. They just might inspire you in turn.
|Young-ha Kim: Be an artist, right now!
Resolution #1: Make time to make art.
From the talk: Young-ha Kim’s “Be an artist, right now!”
“There are hundreds of reasons why we can’t be artists right now,” says Korean author Young-ha Kim—that is, all the reasons we invent when we’re too scared or intimidated. But, Kim reminds us, “We are all born artists.” Unleash those suppressed artistic impulses: take an acting class, buy some paint, or just sit with a notebook and write like crazy.
|Amy Webb: How I hacked online dating
Resolution #2: Take charge of your love life.
From the talk: Amy Webb’s “How I hacked online dating“
Amy Webb finds the saying “true love will find you when you least expect it” nonsensical. Why wait around rather than go after what you want? In her own search for a husband, Webb tossed this saying out the window and approached online dating with a data-driven strategy—and a clear goal. She got it.
|Nilofer Merchant: Got a meeting? Take a walk
Resolution #3: Walk more, sit less.
From the talk: Nilofer Merchant’s “Got a meeting? Take a walk“
We sit even more than we sleep, and it’s terrible for our health. So for 2014, make a commitment to getting up: schedule walking meetings and get-togethers, use a treadmill desk, or work standing up. At least part of the time.
|David Steindl-Rast: Want to be happy? Be grateful
Resolution #4: Practice gratefulness daily.
From the talk: David Steindl-Rast’s “Want to be happy? Be grateful”
Benedictine monk David Steindl-Rast explains that gratefulness is our path to happiness, and that all it takes is a shift in perspective: stop what you’re doing, open yourself up to the opportunities around you, and act on them. Do this as much as you can, even if it means writing yourself reminders and posting them all over your apartment.
|Amanda Palmer: The art of asking
Resolution #5: Ask for what you want.
From the talk: Amanda Palmer’s “The art of asking”
In a talk about her career as an alt-rock performer, Palmer describes the community of fans she’s created by asking for favors, and how much of her career rests on this simple act. You won’t get everything you ask for, of course—but you won’t get anything you don’t ask for.
|Angela Lee Duckworth: The key to success? Grit
Resolution #6: Allow yourself time to meet your goals.
From the talk: Angela Lee Duckworth’s “The key to success? Grit”
“Grit is passion and perseverance for very long-term goals,” psychologist Angela Lee Duckworth says. “Grit is living life like a marathon, not a sprint.” Grit is also essential for success. If you expect to meet your goals immediately and give up when you don’t, you’ll probably be giving up a lot. But if you expect setbacks and can give your goals some breathing room, you have a much better shot.
|Karen Thompson Walker: What fear can teach us
Resolution #7: See your fears as an act of the imagination.
From the talk: Karen Thompson Walker’s “What fear can teach us”
David Steindl-Rast (see Resolution #4) says everything is an opportunity. Fear is no exception. In this talk, novelist Karen Thompson Walker explains that fear doesn’t need to be something we conquer and fight. “What if we thought of fear as an amazing act of the imagination?” she asks. To fear something, we have to first create it in our minds, out of nothing—that is, fear involves writing a story.
|Lisa Bu: How books can open your mind
Resolution #8: Read books that challenge your perspective and beliefs.
From the talk: Lisa Bu’s “How books can open your mind“
Lisa Bu explains the huge shift in perspective that reading prompted, and explains books’ formative role in her life. “Books have given me a magic portal to connect with people from the past and present,” she says. Don’t just stick to what you know: read outside the box.
|Kelly McGonigal: How to make stress your friend
Resolution #9: Make your stress work for you instead of against you.
From the talk: Kelly McGonigal’s “How to make stress your friend“
Psychologist Kelly McGonigal explains that it isn’t stress itself that’s bad for you—it’s believing that stress is bad for you. Reframing your stress as helpful for your performance actually changes your physiological response.
|Abha Dawesar: Life in the "digital now"
Resolution #10: Take breaks from your devices.
From the talk: Abha Dawesar’s “Life in the ‘digital now”‘”
“Our full sense of self needs both immersive experience and the flow of time,” says novelist Abha Dawesar. The digital world, she argues, removes us from that and chops time into bits to be archived. But we can choose to live otherwise, to live in the real, undigitized world — at least sometimes — and let ourselves be truly present. “We can choose those moments that restore the flow of time instead of fragmenting it,” Dawesar says. “We can slow down and we can tune into the ebb and flow of time. We can choose to take time back.”